Grief brain

Just finished reading How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies by Therese A. Rando, one of many books which have been lent to me. It has helped me from going insane, on many days. Mostly, I thank my family, friends, colleagues, ex colleagues and the community for offering hugs, love and kind words. Still. Almost 4 weeks have gone by. Life goes on for everyone else, not for the mourner. Not yet. Maybe some day. Still unimaginable.

If you’ve never experienced grief, you are blessed.

Here’s a peek into a grief stricken brain. If you’re wondering how to act or what to say to someone who is in mourning: hugs, condolences even days/weeks following loved one’s death, attention, active listening, soup, cookies, any kind of food (It’s hard to eat or even swallow when in mourning and eating alone sucks), quicks calls and texts especially after dark can save a mourner from doing foolish things, invitations for outings even if the mourner isn’t ready, encouragement without platitudes. Please don’t say “Take care of yourself”. The last thing that a mourner is concerned about on dark days is their own well being. If you’re uncomfortable with words, remember soup and cookies always express love.
Be well.